Whenever I tell someone I’m too busy for something, their immediate response is to explain to me how busy they are. Rarely am I actually convinced that they are somehow too busy, but they like to compete on hecticness of lives. One mile in my shoes…just one. I have a fair amount of empathic sense for other people and how they tread, and I often catch myself simply being cynical, but please believe me when I say: I’m busier than you are. <\/p>\n
I’m not making an excuse, or polite conversation. Nor am I bitching, in reality. If I say to you I am too busy, it means I have no more than fifteen minutes of free time that day that is not dedicated to sleep. If I go into detail, it is ENTIRELY because no one believes someone who simply says, “I’m too busy that week.”<\/p>\n
So if you have to go to the bank AND the grocery store in the same day, don’t tell me. Just say, “Shit, man, maybe next time.” And I won’t eviscerate you in my imagination and intentionally ignore you the next time I am free. Fair warning to those who call themselves my friend.<\/p>\n
p.s. Those of you who know me: if you think I’ve given up on people, you ain’t seen nothing yet.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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